Most recently I’ve had a lot of guys asking me the same questions over and over again. It looks like most men out there are managing to have success with women but don’t really know how to turn those catches into a relationship.
Last week I wrote a piece on the Main Reasons Guys are Driving Women Away …but it seems the problem doesn’t stop there. Men want to know how to actually secure a girlfriend, how to get a one night stand to actually become their girlfriend.
Now before you start telling me things like, one night stand girls are never good for girlfriends…Let me explain something here… It’s true that girls that are looking for a relationship tend to make guys wait. But it’s also true that if you have ”game” and take advantage of the fact that she’s a woman (relies on emotions much more than us men), you can still get a serious girl into bed.
In the second scenario, it’s not at all her fault that she had sex with you on the first night. Also why should you take it slow? Isn’t it all the same? Why would that make any difference?
For any potential girl the process from Hello to having sex with her should be identical. You might think well this is just my point of view but, it makes sense. The difference is in what you do after the act. If you walk her out of your house, you’re the one that’s actually treating her like a one night stand…
Introducing her to your world
Ok, so how do you turn your date/one night stand into a girlfriend? How do you actually make her fall in love with you? It’s very simple. You make her part of your world.
The biggest transition from one-night stand/simple dating is when you introduce her to your unique world. Women love this sort of stuff, the more you get her involved with what’s going on in your life the more she will want to feel comfortable in it.
Now a lot of guys do this without even realizing, that’s great guys! But this article is here to show you exactly what’s going on and how this is working in your favor. So let’s look at an example:
I get a girl home with me, we have sex and it’s great. Now, I’m left with 2 options. I can either ask her to leave (making it a one night stand – either in the morning or that same night) or I can make her part of my world.
If I marginally like this person I’ll give it a shot. What I do is, give her pair of my clean boxers, a T-shirt and then get her to come into the living room with me. I also have some cool roommates (all girls) so we can hang together.
Me and my roommates watch some cool classic movies, so on a particular night let’s just way we were watching Breakfast at Tiffany’s. I also keep some wine in my house and have this nice white shaggy carpet in front of the TV.
I sit her on the shaggy carpet, pour her a glass of wine and we start watching the movie. Notice I never asked her what she wanted to do, I just got her to do whatever I felt like doing.
Now you tell me, what girl in her right mind wouldn’t like to chill on a shaggy white carpet, drinking wine and watching Breakfast at Tiffany’s?
If she’s the kind of girl that hates this sort of stuff, then I’ll know that night that she’s not girlfriend material anyway (same goes to you and any of the activities that you do).
Ok, the most important point to draw from this is the fact that she is now part of MY WORLD. What we’re doing here, right now, is something that she will never do with anyone else. That makes me unique and it also makes her special, because she can partake in such unique activities. Women love this stuff.
If she stays the night, even better, she’ll be part of my world in the morning. I wake up and, because I eat “healthy” – I cook eggs and bacon with a nice fresh fruit smoothie. Guess what? She get’s the same; she’s literally experiencing part of my life and all the unique things that come with it.
If she has a day off and I have stuff to do, not a problem, I take her with me, implicating her even more into MY WORLD. Even better we’re doing things together… something simple like going to the car parts store to pick up this new light bulb for my car’s taillight. On the way I talk about my car and all sorts of me stuff, does she really care? Not really but what I’m doing here is taking the time to educate her about the things in my life. She notices this and likes it.
It’s important to note, as well as this being a super good way to getting her involved into your life, it’s also a great way to screen her out of it. If she doesn’t like any of the activities that you do then she’s surely not going to be a good girlfriend anyway.
If she likes you world, she’s going to fall in LOVE with YOU. Not the fake you, the wanna be you, no, the real YOU! How great is that?
Keeping her interested
Another thing to take into account is you need to constantly keep her entertained…at least in one way or another. Usually when I have a casual relationship, I speak to her maybe 2-3 times a week, via texts or phone.
With a person I’m interested in having a relationship with I’ll send her up to 5-15 texts a day. This shows her that I’m genuinely interested in her existence.
There’s 2 things you need to be doing here. First you need to ask her questions about her day to day activities and secondly you need to tell her about your day to day activity.
It’s very simple and they love it. They want to hear about what you ate at lunch, what fights you’re having with your roommates etc. She’s also going to tell you what she ate at lunch and the fights she’s having with her girlfriends.
This is normal and this is the sort of thing that builds up a relationship. The more you tell and listen, the more reasons she has to fall in love with you.
You’re actually getting to know this person, soon enough you’ll become very good friends. You’ll know each and every single thing there is to know about each other and that my friend is what people call a RELATIONSHIP. When this happens she will be thinking about you everywhere, on the train, at work even when she’s with her friends.
That’s how you turn a girl into a girlfriend!
Remember, all you need is:
– Good “game” to get her in bed/interested.
– Making her part of your world.
– Constant entertainment – create an actual relevant presence in HER world.